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Just as with getting to know someone in any other kind of context, getting to know someone you’ve met online involves a lot of questioning and answering. Be strong and ask the questions you think it’s important to have answered. And make sure you ask the questions that will really tell you who you’re going to be going out with. The more you know about your potential date before your date, the more comfortable you will be meeting in person. And the happier you’ll be if you find out something that doesn’t sit well prior to your first meeting. It’s a lot easier to break up with someone you’ve never met.
One thing that really helped me find the love of my lifeвЂâ€and for her to understand that I was that man she was looking forвЂâ€was my willingness to ask important questions and to answer all of hers.
The last thing anyone wantsвЂâ€and this applies to both men and womenвЂâ€is surprises later on. If you meet someone great, only to find out at a later situk date that she used to be something that you dread (like being married 18 times), that could be a show-stopper. It’s better to find out now, and do the same in return for her.
After some pleasant talks or e-mails, it’s really not that hard to start “probing” a bit, and I don’t mean in the sack!
I like to start probing early in the process, asking very nice, easy questions such as “What’s your favorite type of movie?” or “Do you like wine?” Those may seem simple, but it’s more the process of being able to ask questions in an open and supportive way that will set the stage for the more complex questions that will follow.
I know it’s hard to ask questions like, “How many people have you slept with?” but they need to be asked and the sooner the better. A good way to handle such a question is to go “open-ended” where you ask, “Tell me about your first love?” That gets the conversation started. After the first, you can ask, “So what happened after he stole your credit cards and left you stranded in Morocco?” You’ll be surprised how a genuine interest and an understanding nature gets people to open up.
Guys, women are just as interested in finding out about your history and background as you are about theirs. If you are having a hard time getting her to talk, you can always say. “Hey. I’m so interested in you that I want to know everything about you!” and that pretty much covers all the bases. On tricky subjects, such as past relationships or sex, you can preface it with, “I know this is a hard subject, but I really want to know, and I will share my experiences with you if that will help.”
It’s the willingness to give information about yourself that will get the other person to open up.
The last little tip is the most important one: What matters most is where things are going. Everyone has a past, and everyone has baggage. If you react badly to the past experiences, yon can shnt down all communication pretty fast. So, if that special person has some history thai is upsetting, maybe the best questions to ask are, “Is that where you are now, ox something yon would do again?”
It’s where you are both going together that really matters. Find out where thai is.
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